Reality Check

Using, of course, my version or reality, which may or may not agree with yours. This morning while I was in the shower, words were buzzing around in my head, frantically searching for an outlet – showering does not require a lot of concentration, you know. Now I am out of the shower, I am dressed – as dressed as I get on these stay-at-home days without going out into public – sweat pants, sweatshirt, socks, slippers. Comfort is primary.

Back to those buzzing in my head thoughts. These thoughts were prompted, I’m sure, by the news articles that found their way into my email this morning – with the president’s comments about his “war with the media, those least honest of all people” (not necessarily a word-for-word quote, but the context is there) – as to the “least honest” part of that statement, I think they have rivals. I will not go so far as to say they are always the most honest, and their job is to report the news as it happens – but – their publisher’s job is to make money, to sell papers, to gain views on the web. What results is, I feel quite sure, a lot of the hyping and sensationalism that we see. I could do with less of that, but I think I can also understand the “for profit” viewpoint. And the publisher’s job is to represent either his viewpoint or the viewpoint of the owner of the paper – hence, they are not always terribly objective. As consumers of any goods, it is our responsibility to investigate, to research, to find for ourselves the best purchase for our needs. It is no different with the consumption of news. It is up to us to investigate, research, look for the least sensationalist version of the news, the most objective. And yes, we will all lean towards the source that appeals to our beliefs. We are, after all, human. So there is that – the president puts himself, always, in the public eye – this president perhaps more than many. And he has done so for a very long time – doing so will garner criticism. That’s life. Get over it.

As to comments regarding his youngest son – we need to get over that. It’s happened with every president who has young children, and it probably always will, but it’s not fair. It’s not right. If you are a parent, you would not like to have your child on the receiving end. Keep the kids out of it. Deal with your children as you see fit, but leave those who are not yours alone.

Then there are the comments about the women’s march. Until I read a couple of articles this morning, I had no idea what their pink hats represented – and I’m not entirely convinced yet. I did think they were weird hats. Whatever that may be, I think it’s amazing that so many people from all over the world showed up, to speak out and be counted. I think it’s admirable. I do not agree that they should not because they already “have more rights than a lot of women in a lot of other countries”. How do you think they got those rights, anyway? By other women, in other times, who dared to risk everything in their lives and their lives themselves, to show up and speak out – to fight what was the norm, to demand equality. By women, in our times, who demand to be heard and who continue to demand equality. I think they are also due credit for the fact that all of these people, crowded together in all of these places, were peaceful and there was no violence, no arrests (at least so far as I have heard). That is the way to demonstrate. That is the way to show up and speak out. I did not hear a demeaning of men – other than the men who demean women. What goes around, comes around – push my buttons and I’ll probably push back. I am human. I am imperfect. As to choosing now to march – well, we now have a president and a vice-president that have both made statements regarding many of those hard-fought-for rights, and taking away those rights. The vice-president’s political history backs that up. The time to show up and speak out is before those rights are gone. Waiting till the threat is reality won’t work. Agree with this or not – that’s your choice. But give credit for the peaceful courage that was demonstrated.

And so there you have it – my soapbox for today. I am working to be respectful, I am working to avoid “bashing”. But for those of you who resent my comments – let me remind you I was/am a supporter of Obama, and those of us who were/are endured eight years of complete disrespect shown him, by citizens of this country, by members of our Congress. What goes around, comes around. I think I’m being fair enough.

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I'm me - nothing unusual, just me. Widowed, 2 grown children who are my best friends, 1 dog, retired, loving being retired. I am woman, I am strong.
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13 Responses to Reality Check

  1. I’m applauding loudly from Virginia, Bravo!

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  2. I think you’re being more than fair. I was so proud of all the people who marched yesterday, and I was sad I wasn’t able to participate because I’d committed to a series of classes on Saturdays that I didn’t notice conflicted with the date. You’re right that the time to speak out is BEFORE any of our freedoms are threatened. Happy Sunday, Carol. 🙂

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  3. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Carol – yesterday’s march was extraordinary. Millions of people from all over the planet!

    To me, this show of solidarity was an inexorable force that arose to counter and to forewarn. It’s not “just” about women’s rights, as some detractors point out – nor is it about being sore losers, that “your” guy got in, and “mine” didn’t. To me, that’s the crux of it – how can his supporters not see that it’s human rights, global rights, that are at stake?

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  4. lakeafton says:

    I totally agree. I will write my Senators and Congresspeople about my opinions,

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  5. Mama Cormier says:

    I’m sorry to hear that there were some comments made about the president’s youngest son. We didn’t hear any of that here in Toronto. I agree that criticism of the children of officials should be off limits. I also agree that the time to protest is now and not after changes are made. I’m baffled by people, many whom are well meaning, who feel one should wait and see. That’s what happened in Nazi Germany in the 30s. I understand now why the Jewish community hates the phrase ‘America first’.

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  6. Robin says:

    Applause, applause! Well written, Carol. I saw one of those posts critical of the march. One was a long rant about how we don’t need to march, that we already have plenty of rights. I wanted to ask the same thing you did: How do you think you got those rights??!

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  7. leendadll says:

    the original design for the hats had distinct cat ears – but as they got copied and cranked out at high pace, people made square hats that kinda vaguely, if you squint just right, miiiight look like cat ears.
    I had online friends in marches in Los Angeles, Sacramento, Denver, Wash DC, and Nova Scotia. I’m proud of all of them. This march wasn’t mine (I’m more of a protester than “marcher”) but I’ll participate when my time comes.

    fyi: You where more than me on the weekends… I skip the socks & slippers most of the time. But yesterday I added an oversized flannel shirt for a few hours… till I moved back to the bedroom, with the heated mattress pad, where I was surrounded by cats.

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