Sometimes I think we humans are strange creatures. Sometimes I think we forget our common sense, our learned wisdom, our fairness – most often, I think, when we get involved in a relationship. That is, a Mars and Venus, male and female, relationship. Sometimes we forget the second party to the relationship is human. Frail, imperfect. Emotions get in the way, and we do not always see clearly.
Sometimes we seem to expect the other person to be a reflection of ourselves, with the same passions and personality quirks. Sometimes we forget to allow for differences. Sometimes we expect too much.
(photo courtesy of The Artistic One)
It is a fortunate couple that survives the differences, that accepts the imperfections, that does not expect too much of the other. Sometimes there are those couples who love fiercely and long, but who simply cannot survive as more than friends. Mars and Venus, you know? It is special when bonds exist, whether in romantic, married, or friendship relationships. We are different from one another, we women and men. It is special when we learn to celebrate those differences and be happy.
There is really not a lot of significance to these thoughts racing through my brain today. A comment here or there will often set me off on a race, words streaming, screaming, looking for a way out. Those words have now found a way out.
Walking about the yard the other afternoon, attempting to make the big furry girls think they were getting a walk, the fall colors drew me in, insisted I go get the camera, record them – one more time – so they can never be forgotten. The big furry girls, by the way, were really not deceived. They knew this amble around the yard is what their mom does when she’s being too lazy to walk. Or when her body is telling her it would rather not walk very far. Because it’s getting older and sometimes it has aches.
This is the season for celebrating the display Mother Nature creates for us. Just as spring is the season to celebrate growth and new beginnings, fall is the time to wind down, to prepare for a winter’s rest, to find harmony.