Adjusting to the Empty Nest Syndrome – Again

I have spent the past few days trying to get back into my “normal” routine. Whatever that might be. It is always a shock to my system when the kids have been here for a visit and then they leave, but this year it seemed to hit harder. Most likely because of the way life is right now, but I think also because my Kat, the youngest, my daughter, literally flew the coop to new life of her own, many many miles away. This will be the first time she has lived alone, in a place all her own, and she’s doing it in a foreign land where everyone is a stranger. So what is it about a daughter doing that that is more scary than when a son does it?

Before they left however, we went to visit the wetlands with the Artistic One, on a night when the skies were filled with smoke from distant fires. I had this notion that just before sunset would be an excellent time to see many waterfowl. Turned out I was mistaken.

What we saw was swarms of hundreds of tree swallows.



The sky was filled with swallows, swooping, diving, soaring above and all around us. The wetlands is a perfect breeding ground for our infamous Midges, which seem to be a special treat for the swallows.


There were grasses, of course, gracefully leaning away from the breeze.

There were a few wildflowers still blooming in this midsummer season, when they get little moisture to nourish them.

There were a few dead leaves, discarded by their trees.

There was a sign, warning that shooting in this area is not allowed. I cannot imagine how son happened to be standing just next to the sign! I would never have asked him to pose like this. Of course I wouldn’t!

Finally as we were leaving in the dim evening light, an egret. The moral of this story is that if you are patient, if you wait long enough, you will find what you are looking for.

As I have. I have found my peace again. Kat is safely ensconced in her apartment in the very southern part of South Korea, happy where she is, making friends already, exploring, growing. Gep is preparing to head back to Oman for another year, perhaps longer. I am happy knowing that they are happy. They will be back in December. Until then, life is providing enough.

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I'm me - nothing unusual, just me. Widowed, 2 grown children who are my best friends, 1 dog, retired, loving being retired. I am woman, I am strong.
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15 Responses to Adjusting to the Empty Nest Syndrome – Again

  1. jay53 says:

    Wow, what a beautiful sight – all those swallows! Just think how many midges they are sweeping from the air!

    Your son is handsome. Of course, I have no idea why he is posing next to a ‘no shooting’ sign, but it’s kind of funny anyway!


  2. “I have found my peace again.”

    yes. Yes. and YES again.


  3. suzicate says:

    Those were a lot of birds!
    Hope Kat enjoys her adventures!


  4. It’s wonderful that you had this special time with them, Carol. December isn’t so far away really….


  5. Lynne Ayers says:

    The swallows must have been quite a sight, Carol. It’s always hard to see the kids go, or to leave them to return home. I don’t think I ever do it without moist eyes.


  6. LG says:

    Don’t worry, your daughter will be fine (says a woman who couldn”t sleep last night because her 9 year old had a sleepover at a friend’s house in the next street).
    Lovely pictures.


  7. Dawn says:

    She’s off having an adventure. Every woman should have one (or more). They’ll be home soon. I know, not soon enough. But soon. Love the birds! 🙂


  8. Heather says:

    “…if you are patient, if you wait long enough, you will find what you are looking for.” Sometimes I need a little reminder 🙂
    I know you were thrilled with the egret, but I love the swallows. It must’ve been a bit magical there under all those swooping birds.


  9. Handsome son – and loved the birds.


  10. Karma says:

    What a wonderful sight – all those swallows in the setting sunlight! Nicely done! I need your wisdom to find my peace. My first child is “leaving the nest” for college this Thursday and I am already panicking on the inside. She’s only going 45 miles from home, but I can’t imagine not seeing her and hearing her stories every day. Hopefully using Skype will help!


  11. pattisj says:

    Loved seeing the birds. That is a lot of distance between you and your family. I’m glad communication technology is better now!


  12. I know just how you feel! The partings don’t get any easier, it can take me a while to find my peace, chocolate helps!


  13. Lisa says:

    Why is my mind replaying The Birds movie?! 🙂 And the No Hunting sign is oddly humorous. I love it when I can get shots of herons and egrets. They are such marvelously beautiful birds. Looks like a very enjoyable day, all around. Glad you all had fun.


  14. Dear Carol,
    You are a very fine storyteller. This is a beautiful post–both words and pictures–and one that will stay with me. I didn’t know that your kids lived over seas, and that does make parting much more difficult. Sending hugs and good wishes to you all.


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