When the Day is Rainy, Sit by the Window

Sit by the window, inside where it is warm and dry, and spy on our feathered friends who seem to not mind the rain and who fluff up to keep warm. I moved a hummingbird feeder to the tree outside my window hoping to get better views of the Anna’s Hummingbird who was perching in that tree for a couple of days. You know what they say about man making plans and God laughing, right? Yep. Anna’s has not been around, at least where I can see, for a couple of days now, but a pair of Calliope Hummers have replaced him. So today I’ll share photos of that pair, as my mind wanders in and out of the crevices of life.

When you have an itch, scratch it

My grandson, who is into Motocross – both riding and filming – managed to break a foot quite badly a couple of years ago. It required surgery and the insertion of a pin or two. The other day he broke his wrist and is having surgery, again with pins to be inserted, today. The boy is never going to get through security in an airport if he keeps this up! His dad and I are discussing possible replacement hobbies, like knitting or bowling. Assuming the wrist will permit. He also films motocross events and is doing very well with that. This boy, who is not really a boy anymore because he’ll be 21 this fall, the one I remember as a tiny baby and then a toddler, is a boy to be proud of. Even if he does go around breaking parts far too often.


This boy’s sister also rides in Motocross. She just turned 17. What I want to know is how they got to be so grown up so quickly! She has not (yet) broken any parts. We hope it stays that way. She is also a person of whom I am very proud. Their parents have done a good job.


My little corner of the world is shining brightly this morning, the sky pure blue with no clouds after several days of chilly gray wet. Happiness lives in this brightly shining corner of the world. Life is not perfect, but it is not perfect for any of us, is it? Those imperfections only make the good parts brighter and more precious, don’t you think?


Thinking how life gives us the opportunity to shine, to be the best we can be. To accept that we are doing our best, and not to beat ourselves up if we are not perfect. To be happy with what we are so we don’t feel a need to pull others down or to blow ourselves up larger than life. To not spend time being angry about things our anger will not change – that’s such a waste of energy. If things offend us, we should work to change them. We should live by our principles, but we should not expect everyone to share those principles. We should give space for others to be what they are.

Now there’s a really judgmental paragraph, all those “shoulds”. Truly I don’t mean it that way, judgmental. Or do I?


I remember when I worked in Southern California for an independent escrow company, the owner of our company had a couple of pet phrases. We all learned to be wary when she approached with the words “learning experience” or “wonderful opportunity”. She was right, of course, but we often thought some opportunities were not so wonderful. Some mountains are higher than we cared to climb just then. But oh! the sense of satisfaction when that mountain top was claimed, when it all started to come together and we had learned one more thing! Really that’s what life is all about, isn’t it? Overcoming, learning, mastering skills and claiming our place.


Dream the impossible dream. Then go for it!


Make your life enough. And smile.

About Carol

I'm me - nothing unusual, just me. Widowed, 2 grown children who are my best friends, 1 dog, retired, loving being retired. I am woman, I am strong.
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12 Responses to When the Day is Rainy, Sit by the Window

  1. srdrunnor@aol.com says:

    Best blog ever

    Sent from my Verizon Wireless Phone


  2. Colleen says:

    I’m glad your corner is shining brightly today. Ours is too, with a welcome respite from the heat as well.
    I believe this too Carol, that our life does give us all the opportunitiy we might need… to be the best that we can be.
    Thinking about your grandson and his passion for motor cross. Our nephew, who is just about the same age, shares this passion and has broken several bones, some seriously but he is atill competing. Yes, knitting would be good πŸ™‚
    Your little Caliope is beautiful! I’ve only seen them once or twice at our feeders. The Anna’s are with us year round and own our feeders.


  3. SuziCate says:

    Lovely photographs and inspiring words…not judgmental at all. We should all strive for the good of us all. Hope your grandson’s surgery goes well and speedy healing.


  4. Heather says:

    I just love (and embrace) these words: “To accept that we are doing our best, and not to beat ourselves up if we are not perfect. To be happy with what we are so we don’t feel a need to pull others down or to blow ourselves up larger than life. To not spend time being angry about things our anger will not change”
    Also I’m so happy you share your bird photos. I enjoy when our hummingbirds divebomb us while we’re on the patio, but that’s about all the exposure I get. I can’t believe how fluffy they get πŸ™‚


  5. Carol – I absolutely love the photographs you’ve shared with us in the post – FABULOUS! And I love when you said:

    “Those imperfections only make the good parts brighter and more precious.”


  6. Rob says:

    I’m not really new here, but I have a new blog. You have captured such beautiful pictures of the hummingbirds – they always fascinate me.

    When our son was growing up, I always hoped that he would never choose anything that had the potential to break bones or cause a concussion. Our grandson is still too young to make those choices.

    Accepting myself, imperfections and all – I am still working on it. Your words are inspiring!


  7. lisa says:

    I’m wandering in and out of the crevices today as well. But you put it more eloquently than my stream-of-consciousness thoughts! We have a nephew whose occupation of choice is……wait for it…..bull riding! Not looking forward to the day a bull breaks one of his bones. Love the hummer shots. Wish ours were a bit more active at the feeders this year.


  8. Karma says:

    I love how you end this blog post – make your life enough. Sometimes easier said than done, but worthwhile. Wonderful variety of hummingbirds!


  9. Kathy says:

    Some more hummingbird photos–and different kinds than we have here. Enjoyed looking at them–and reading your words. So agree…especially the part about not beating ourselves up. And giving others the space to be exactly who they are, with their unique parts.


  10. jay53 says:

    I think it’s alright to be judgemental, I really do. We need to acknowledge what we feel, be honest in admitting what we feel, and examine what we feel and why we feel it, rather than refusing to acknowledge it and trying to bury it – which never really works. Once we’ve had that judgemental thought, though, I believe it’s how you handle it and what you do next which is the important part.

    Sometimes I find myself being judgemental and realise it’s not about today’s situation, but about my childhood, or about an issue which I haven’t dealt with properly. Then I can sit back and think about it and stop being judgemental, and ponder on more positive turns of mind, and keep my nose out of other people’s business. That’s the learning experience.

    Only rarely is it justified – for instance when I’m feeling judgemental about teenaged mothers swilling lager at 4pm in the afternoon in front of their tired and hungry 2 year olds and swearing viciously at them when they want attention – oh, and then swearing viciously at them again, when they repeat the swearwords they’ve heard from their mother’s own lips. I have some sympathy with these inadequate mothers (they must have had a horrible childhood themselves to have learned so little) but I have a whole heap MORE sympathy with their poor children. But I have no idea what to actually DO about it.

    I guess that proves how unhelpful it is to be judgemental. *Sigh*


  11. Joanne says:

    I became so wrapped up in reading your words that I missed the pictures and had to go back to look at them! Oh, and what beautiful little birds they are! The paragraph you claimed to be judgemental, I found to be very profound and not at all judemental, but very sage advice. “We should give space for others to be what they are”, indeed we should. I enjoy who you are, Carol. πŸ™‚


  12. I really enjoyed this post, Carol. The pictures are beautiful, and so is your voice.


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