A Wonderful Thing

It is a wonderful thing when your children, the fruits of your womb, those little creatures you spent all those years raising, trying to encourage them to become responsible, contributing adults, reach the age where you no longer need to parent – or at least not really parent – but where you can relax and enjoy and value all they have grown to be and all they offer. Best of all, you can value the fact that they are friends. Perhaps best friends.

My kids, the Gep and the Kat, are adults now – full fledged adults at that. They have become people I am pleased to know, people I happily call my kids, my friends. In the process they have developed characteristics, talents and skills I envy.

Gep, my first-born, my big tall son, has infinite patience and an infinite desire to learn, to continue to learn about all things. He has so much talent in many areas. He is an amazing teacher, an amazing nurturer of children. He is an explorer, a traveler of the world, always open to new places and new experiences. He has spent time in Honduras, Nicaragua, Dominican Republic working and helping to build churches, water systems, needed amenities in remote, poor villages. He has taught in China, in Korea, and will be going to Muscat, Oman to teach next month. He is my favorite son.

Kat, my second-born and my favorite daughter, is a creative, imaginative creature. Not unlike me when I was much younger, she has been emotional, has had a life that has been a bit of a roller coaster, has been searching for who she is. She is, I believe, finding that person, accepting that person, learning to be what and who she is without feeling a need to be more. To be it all. She is also an incredible teacher, one who relates and interfaces amazingly well with preschool and younger-age children. She has had to deal with living in the California economy, getting her Master’s degree in education just as the economy crashed and hiring went on hold while lay-offs and firing became the norm. She is holding her own. She is living her life with joy. She is using her many talents and finding the reward that comes with that.

My kids are my pride. My kids – who are not kids anymore – tell me that somehow, somewhere along the line, all the mistakes I have made in this life were not the end of the road – were not what I will leave behind. What I will leave behind is two adults with the power to reason, to think, to survive. To be themselves, to stand up to the world and its demands. To stand tall despite the challenges, to be true to themselves.

It is a most wonderful thing to have your legacy be two people who have so much to offer. Who could ask for anything more?

But yes, I could ask for more. When your son and your daughter plan a dinner like this:


and many other most delicious meals in tandem with offering wonderful company, you could ask that it never end. When they leave, I will have to cook again.

That is not a good thing.

About Carol

I'm me - nothing unusual, just me. Widowed, 2 grown children who are my best friends, 1 dog, retired, loving being retired. I am woman, I am strong.
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11 Responses to A Wonderful Thing

  1. Heather says:

    So happy for you and your time together. I can feel your love for them all the way over here.
    Perhaps they will leave you some leftovers so you can delay the cooking 😉


  2. Dear Carol, what a really lovely post! What a great job you have done raising good kids. Best wishes for the whole family!


  3. Being a parent is the proudest thing I have done! ~ BB


  4. suzicate says:

    So glad you’re having a wonderful time with your “favorite” children! You have much to be proud of in them and they in you.


  5. Lisa says:

    What a wonderful testament to your “children”! Well done, mom!


  6. I. Love. THIS! Post.


  7. Dawn says:

    You did good Mom. I remember my own mother saying something similar…we really liked each other when we were all adults, past the teenage thing…when we had mutual respect for each other and no one was dependent on the other. It was good. Glad you are enjoying your children’s visit…and the dinner looks yummy!


  8. Karma says:

    Really nice post, Carol. I hope that I am in the process of creating wonderful, intelligent, independent young ladies here in this house, and I hope that we will be great friends too when they are adults.


  9. Angelia Sims says:

    Awesome! What wonderful and beautiful children you have raised. I am pretty sure I know where they get it from. 🙂


  10. Joanne says:

    This post rings so true to me, after a conversation with my own daughter on Friday. She told me that now she is an adult, we have gone past the mother daughter stage to become friends. She also mentioned that I would be the first person she would turn to if she needed a mother again! Lol.

    It sounds as though you see your children in the same way as I do, with immense pride, mixed with wonderment at the magnificent adults they have become. This is a beautiful tribute to your children. Congratulations on being mom to your two favourite children, Carol. 🙂


  11. Lynne Ayers says:

    The time together with our adult children is so delightful isn’t it? Enjoyable, often enlightening, filled with laughs – I had the great pleasure of being together with my 3 earlier this month – precious and fun time. Your two sound like wonderful people and a credit to you.


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