Wait Just One Darn Minute!

From the current issue of The Week:

A 6-year-old Colorado boy was suspended from school for reciting the rap lyric “I’m sexy and I know it” to a female classmate. “Sexy and I Know It,” by LMFAO, recently topped the national charts, but school officials said first-grader D’Avorite Meadows committed sexual harassment by quoting its chorus. “I’m floored,” said his mom.

We are a society that loves to jump on the bandwagon, a society of latching on to the most recent obsession and running with it. Not so many years ago, it was preschool teachers abusing children. It has been child abuse, which is an frightening and important topic, but it resulted in a parent losing his ability to discipline his child – reasonably and justifiably – with a swat or anything that could be construed as abuse. The kids know this, and the kids know the telephone numbers to Social Services.

Now it is sexual harassment. Can we never become aware that there are problems of many sorts, then work on them, deal with them – appropriately and in moderation? Must we always see the in every word, every action, intent to do harm, whatever the harm-of-the-month might be?

Situations like the Colorado boy in the article above are so ridiculous, so absolutely insane. I know our kids are exposed to a great deal more now than they were before television, computers, instant mass media, but come on! Let’s not make nightmares where none might exist. To add to this sadness, this is not a singular case of this type – I have seen news reports of many such instances.

Then there is the John Travolta story – I am suspect of these “abused” that are coming forward. I suspect there may be a lot of looking for a moment of fame in these accusations. But if that isn’t true, if Travolta did act in an offensive manner to these people, they were adults – they were able to simply say “no” and walk from the room. I doubt they would have lost their ability to earn their livings had they done so. And do we need to know? Aren’t Travolta’s sexual preferences really something that are between himself and his wife? We have all these privacy laws that can really become quite a bit of a pain, yet we afford privacy to no one anymore. I recognize that when one is a celebrity, privacy is not their main goal, and is something they can expect to lose. To a degree, yes. But that does not mean we need to be aware of every blooming second of their lives. I feel no need to go to bed with them, yet the media seems to think we should.

I am not saying we should ignore wrongs or try not punish those who are truly guilty. I am saying we should behave like intelligent, thoughtful, reasonable adults. We should investigate thoroughly, make certain we have all the facts, without undue publicity. With caution. Those who come forward with accusations that are proven false should not be let go scott free. I don’t know what kind of punishment would be appropriate in those instances, but certainly setting out to harm someone’s reputation to promote one’s self should not be brushed off lightly.

Respect – we all need to show respect. The “Golden Rule” is a good one; maybe we should try it out and see how well it might work for all of us!

Now that my rant has concluded – for this day, anyway, pictures follow. These are some that I took while we were in Deadwood, SD.






About Carol

I'm me - nothing unusual, just me. Widowed, 2 grown children who are my best friends, 1 dog, retired, loving being retired. I am woman, I am strong.
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12 Responses to Wait Just One Darn Minute!

  1. Northern Narratives says:

    Have we lost our common sense? Love your photos.


  2. Heather says:

    I love your rants, Carol. It’s comforting to know there are others out there who think maybe we ought to learn to walk away from situations that may hurt our feelings instead of seeking punishment or damages from the offender. And I am right there with you about the baseless accusations.
    Also, Deadwood looks like a lovely place to visit, and Devil’s Tower seems aptly named!


  3. Lynne Ayers says:

    “We have all these privacy laws that can really become quite a bit of a pain, yet we afford privacy to no one anymore.” Well said! It seems there is no common sense any more, no common courtesy, no benefit of the doubt – as you said, no respect.


  4. Madhu says:

    I believe we have lost all common sense and reason too! Dread opening the newspaper these days! Your photos are superb!


  5. Sheri says:

    Couldn’t agree more with your “rant.” I rant and rave about similar “news stories” on almost a daily basis. There is no room for individual situations, it’s become a “cookie cutter” (aka zero tolerance) world. But on a lighter note — we LOVED Devil’s Tower. It was such a cool place. Thanks for the reminder of a wonderful day.


  6. “Respect – we all need to show respect.”

    Loved the “rant” and the photographs.


  7. suzicate says:

    I hadn’t heard about either one of these things, but I do so love your photos!


  8. Joanne says:

    LMFAO are huge in Australia and having teenagers in the house I know nearly every word to the latest songs myself! I can’t believe that a young child was suspended from school for reciting the lyrics! My 14 year old son sees LMFAO as a couple of guys having fun, and he has fun, singing along with their songs. To quote a very teenaged saying, these people making the accusations should “get over themselves”. You are so right when you say it is all attention seeking, and the cost is so high when it affects other peoples lives.

    Deadwood looks like a lovely place to visit. I love the old buildings. 🙂


  9. I also love your rants, Carol. And couldn’t agree more.


  10. Thanks for expressing what so many of us are thinking. It seems like people will do anything to get attention and their 24 hours of fame. I agree there should be a consequence for bringing false charges against someone. (Personally if I had been a maid in John’s hotel room and I got a look from him, that would have made my day- hey, my grandchildren would have heard the story)
    As for the 6 year old, what happened to pulling him aside and gently telling him that maybe he shouldn’t sing those kind of songs in school? If it continued, then bring in the parents and they could reassess what kinds of shows and music they are exposing their 6 year to in the first place. Unbelieveable!


  11. Lisa says:

    Common sense is all but gone in our society today. When I worked at an Air Force base in the early 80s, male military personnel could be brought up on sexual harassment charges if they so much as looked at a woman’s backside when she passed them! Ridiculous!


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